Many of us like to swallow the concept of a soul mate, someone who we will hang out with through one life after another, or in many different lives, at different times, until we have the consummate person, or individual as a permanent connecticator. A soul mate; souls meant to be together all the time, life, after life, after life. Thank something that they are not always the same shell on the outside. But my dilemma is more the role our soul mate will take.
It is usually assumed, at least by the conversations I’ve had with others who believe, the soul moves on after death to another shell known as a human being. Reincarnation, some testify as to its definition. In a way, it kind of makes sense, at least for those who believe it occurs, and explains the things one knows about another that they never would have known even with access to in the other’s brain processors. Historical stuff shows up as well. You could only know if you’ve been there, but it was in another, previous, lifetime.
In the Sutphenesque interpretation, it is always a partner. And this is where I run into clumps of logs and mud hiding who our soul mate is, was, or should be. It limits it way too much. Why do we have to have a lover as a soul mate? Is it more the emotional connection or does it have to be physical connectivity as well? What are the rules set down in unwritten writings? Is it gender specific? In all that I have read, it’s two people of dissimilar X and Y. Why? Is another link not allowed in the eternal time thing? Sidenote; Does the soul actually have a gender? That seems to be so limiting.
Dump the lover category. I have one very filling relationship in my life. It is the only interconnection I have ever had that has a constant and in depth impact. I sense my soul mate. I know and sense the intensity of love, a lot deeper than a surface of love and connection. It’s a she. But it wouldn’t matter if it wasn’t. In continuation, it is not physical at all. There is no sensual attraction. There is no desire to go further than an intense sense of loving her and having her love me back. And there never will be; because it’s not supposed to be and doesn’t need to be. It’s not a definition required to fit the category. Obviously, I believe that a soul mate can be more than the given stereotype.
Think about the person who’s very nearness calms you down. When you’re in their thoughts, you know. Think about the one who, even when they curse, scream and yell, within levels of time, still loves you unconditionally and your feeling are mutually akin to theirs. Think about the person who you would do more for than anyone else, not based on have to or to please, but on a desire to, and who’s hurt causes the most intense heartbreak when you can’t fix their pain. And within that realm, you know the soul inside is so much a part of your soul that you never want to give it up. It’s not dependent, possessive, jealous, hateful or longing. It doesn’t give direction to a way of life, or inhibit open desire or another part time link. It’s just a soulful connection that you hope never goes away. Even in short terms of time, it’s an unwavering link that causes the heart to exert its longing, just for the presence of nearness. Other conditions are irrelevant.
In my next life, I want to tap together, like mobil phones sharing passwords, and make sure that her life, no matter the temporary direction she chooses to take, links us in the special way I sense we are and will be connected, forever. I never want to lose the connection to her soul. I never want to not know her presence and her love.
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